Ex-spouses and ex-lovers make up the next category of friends and are to be added with caution. You should generally not add an ex-lover or spouse unless you want them to comment about your new relationships. Be careful, because un-friending someone isn’t always easy to do, especially if you are just breaking up. Facebook is aware of these kinds of issues; in fact, when you first sign up and give Facebook your basic information, it asks you what your relationship status is. If you check “Married” or “Single” you can always change it to “It’s complicated” or something else. In the new world of social networking, relationship status can be mysterious or not, but it is something to be mindful of at the very least.
Another issue is sometimes having friends that don’t get along. There are a lot of groups that you can join on Facebook, and I ran into some problems, (albeit a very minor one) after joining a group that will explain what I mean. I joined a Facebook elementary school group after I was invited by a past classmate from elementary school. That’s right, it was a page for my very first school! People often make pages about schools so they can get in touch with friends from that time. I recognized a few names and joined. On that page, if I recognized someone, I made a comment on his or her photo. Then I realized that I had several old class photos stored away somewhere. I found one, I scanned a photo of the class picture from fourth grade. On the elementary school Facebook page there is a place where you can post a photo. I posted the photograph of my school picture from fourth grade, which had about thirty students in it, neatly arranged.
Once I posted the picture, other former students began commenting on it. What happened next was really fascinating. People began to “tag” the photograph of the group of children. “Tagging” means identifying other people in Facebook photos so that their names are displayed under the image. When you are looking at a photograph of people on Facebook, there is an option right next to the photograph that says “tag this photograph,” and if you click on it, you can drag your cursor over the photo and click when it’s hovering over someone’s face. A form will pop up for you to fill in that person’s name. After you tag one person or several people in a picture, you click a button that says “done tagging.” What you are left with is a caption underneath the photo with everyone’s name in it. If you casually move your cursor over the photo, you will see who’s who in the picture. Pretty neat, huh?
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